What to Do When Things Happen that are Out of Your Control

When things happen that are totally out of our control it’s so easy to go down a rabbit hole of “oh no, the world is collapsing”.

But if you’re equipped with the 3 ‘mindset tools’ that I’ll share with you today, you can handle A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. that comes your way.

When things seem to be spiralling out of control and you catch yourself going down that worst case scenario rabbit hole of despair… here’s what you should do:

Focus on what you CAN control. Don’t focus on what you CAN’T control.

You can’t control COVID. You can’t control other people. 

But there are always things you CAN control.

Watch the video or continue reading below to find out our top 3 tips on how to stay focussed what you CAN control:

Tip 1: Control what you consume

I’m not talking about food and treats, although what you eat and how much water you drink is also really important. I’m talking about how much news and social media you are consuming.

To stop consuming news is easy, just go on a detox. 

Social media might be a bit harder, as you’re probably thinking, "but I have to be on social media as I use social media for my arts and crafts business". I hear you. 

The problem is that each time you pick up your brain-draining gadget and say YES to watching another cat video, you’re saying NOPE to ever reaching your biggest and most important long-term goals.

Listen up! There is actually a way to do both, to manage social media for business and not get sucked in.

Here’s how, and this changed everything for us...

About a year ago I read a book by Russell Brunson where he advised that if you use social media for your business then you have to make sure that you strip unnecessary noise and distractions out. I knowwww we all love a good cat video binge, or endless scrolling, looking at what our acquaintances are up to.

In his book, Russel advised that you go and ‘unfollow’ every single friend that you have on Facebook. A friend won't be alerted that you've unfollowed them and it's just simply that you won't get their updates on your feed.

Don’t delete them, if you have 0 friends on your personal profile, then your customers may think you're a bit dodgy. Just go and unfollow them so that they don’t appear in your Facebook news feed anymore.

In the spirit of the moment I did just that. I unfollowed all my friends. And you know what happened?

Our social media business page and group took off, and we managed to grow our group from 0 to 10 000 in one year and saw the same growth on our page.

I stopped my endless social scrolling and managed to focus on what matters most, using social media to grow our business. 

So, here’s your first challenge for today. If you’re serious about growing your business and controlling social overwhelm, go and unfollow your friends. 

Give me a ‘yes!’ in the comments if you’re going to do this.

Tip 2: Surround yourself with supportive people

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Have you ever heard this before? 

The people you spend the most time with shape who you are. Let us know in the comments, who are these people? Perhaps your kids, husband, a close friend.

These people determine what conversations dominate your attention. They affect which attitudes and behaviours you are regularly exposed to and eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.

Do the people close to you fully support your dream?

It could be that the dream in your heart may be bigger than the immediate environment in which you find yourself. It’s difficult, near impossible, to lift yourself up if they don’t believe in your dream.

You can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life and business. Does this make sense?

So, take control: Surround yourself with people you admire. We become like the people that we choose to expose ourselves to. Remember, it’s a choice. 

Find a small group of supportive people or lean into the CCC community.

Consciously plan that you will only value the opinions, attitudes and life-philosophies of people who support you in your journey. 

Create a support bubble that will help you rise highest and reach your goals.

Tip 3: Focus on the next right step. 

Don't drive yourself crazy trying to think of ALL the things. Don't drive yourself crazy, focusing and complaining about all the things that are OUT of your control. Just focus on the next right step. 

What is that for you? 

It might be sending out an email, it might be recording a video, it might be going back to the drawing board and brainstorming ideas.

When you focus your attention solely on the things you CAN control, life suddenly becomes a whole lot more manageable.

Your feelings of helplessness and despair start to dissipate, and you feel like you can finally start to breathe again.

And when obstacles do pop up, which they will, you’ll find that you’re more capable because you’re in the right headspace to take them on.

You can control curveballs. You can keep marching forward. You can do incredible things. I have no doubt in my mind about that.

All you need to do is refocus and breathe.

To recap: 

1. Control your consumption - go and unfollow your Facebook friends
2. Surround yourself with supportive people
3. Focus on the next right step